It may sound surprising to you, but many men have had issues with erectile dysfunction at some point in their lives or another. So, if you’re one such man, then it’s important not to be ashamed of this often-temporary condition. There are many different potential causes of erectile dysfunction. Many of them are biological. Taking certain medication or having certain diseases can be a direct cause of erectile dysfunction. But the fact remains that there’s also the possibility for the cause of erectile dysfunction to be entirely psychological in nature.
That being said, one of the most frequent psychological causes of erectile dysfunction is performance anxiety. This usually happens to men that are usually socially anxious when they are about to have sex – especially for the first times.
You see, there is an illusionary cult in the west that states that every man must be the perfect lover. He must rock the world of his love – otherwise, he won’t be worthy to the title of “man”. This is wrong on many different levels. Not all men are created to be proficient lovers. This also neglects the influence of practice and skill development in love making.
The point here is that a man can overhype himself up with too much pressure. He may feel that he must perform great in bed. This can create big pressure. His mind may get overactive. Cortisol may flood his body – and one of the most potent effects of being stressed out is an immediate decrease in sex drive. So, paradoxically, the more stressed out you are about being a great lover – the bigger the odds of you failing to be a great lover. And as you may suppose, one of the symptoms of being overly stressed out is erectile dysfunction.
So, how do you battle this condition? What do you need to do in order to decrease the influence of stress over your libido? Since this is a mental process, you will need to solve it on a mental level. What you can do to improve the situation is practice more. Everyone feels at least a bit nervous when they’re having sex for the first time. This can be extended to having sex for the first time with a new partner. The more you do it – the more you will get to practice your skills. And with time, you won’t get so stressed out.
Also, it’s important not to set too high expectations. Take things easy. It won’t be the end of the world if you aren’t the best lover in history for that night. Sex is about having fun and connecting with someone on a more intimate level. It’s not about “performing” and living up to your ego-driven ideals. The sooner you understand this – the sooner you will do away with your erectile dysfunction problems caused by performance anxiety.
We hope that this article helps you shed some light on your potential psychological issues when it comes to performance anxiety and sex. If you follow the advice from above – it’s likely that you won’t have any problems with it any longer.